Tips for Managing the Back to School Transition

I hope that you have had a relaxing and fun summer. As always, the transition back to school seems to come all too soon! 

Please know that after I return to school the week of August 20, I will be contacting each family to offer a quiet time for your child to visit their new classroom. You are, of course, welcome to bring them during our regular "Meet the Teacher" event, but that can be very noisy and crowded. If your child is likely to feel overwhelmed, then I encourage you to consider bringing them at the alternate time. I also plan to snap some photos of their classroom and teacher and email them home (as soon as the teachers have finished setting up their classrooms).

This time of summer we all start to feel stressed about transitioning from summer to school. I don't know any students who find transitions enjoyable. Anxious behavior is to be expected from most of our children (and more than a few parents and teachers!).  Please consider using some of the suggestions listed below to help ease your child's transition back to school.

• An increase in difficult behavior or tantrums is not unusual. Be calm and consistent with your expectations.  Consistency of expectations is essential to decrease anxiety.  Do your best to stay emotionally calm. Positively reinforce calm behavior with praise and preferred activities.

• Keep conversations about school starting to a minimum. Discussing it over and over again does not calm anxieties. Imagine if you are afraid of spiders and the people around you want to talk about spiders every day for a couple of weeks! I doubt that it would help you stop being afraid of spiders. Continue about the business of getting ready for school (buying supplies, etc), but minimize the conversation while occasionally emotionally checking in. Let your child know that if they do want to talk about their feelings, you are available. Saying something like "How are you feeling about going back to school?" or "Do you have any worries?" can help your child know that you are available to talk.  

• Respect your child's feelings. Don't try to convince them to be excited about school. Simply listening and reflecting back their feelings can help take a lot of the "power" out of those anxious feelings. 

• Children who have difficulty with transitions do much better with a visual schedule. This is absolutely one of the most effective things you can do to decrease anxiety!  Print off either of the two calendars below or have your child make his/her own. The week before school starts help your child write a plan for each day. It would be helpful for them to also fill in an activity that they are looking forward to doing after school each day for the first week of school. Help them see that preferred activities can be enjoyed even after school starts again.

• Check off each day as they pass so your child can see what is next on his plan.

• Get your child back into the routine of a regular bedtime and wake time. Please don't wait until the weekend before school starts to adjust their sleep schedule -- or eating or meds schedule for that matter!

• Consider arranging a playdate with a school friend. Consider taking the kids to play on the playground at school. This can remind them of the fun times they will have once they are back at school.  

• Arrange everything for the first day of school the night before (clothing, lunchbox, supplies, etc). Eliminating the mad rush in the morning will help keep things calm.  Again, having a simple visual schedule made for the morning can make things more predictable and calm for your child. You can help your child write or draw a schedule or you can make one using google images. When my children were younger, I actually took photographs of them performing each step of the schedule. It was more motivating to see themselves successfully doing the right thing. A basic morning visual schedule can look something like this:  

Or this...

Or it can look like a simple list if your child is a good reader and does not need picture cues.

• Above all, keep a positive and calm attitude. Your "vibe" is easily felt by your child.

I hope these suggestions will be helpful. Please send me an email if you have specific concerns or needs that we need to discuss. I don't have a classroom phone hooked up yet (I've moved rooms...will send more info on that later!), but can always be reached via email.
 

 

Now go enjoy your last couple of weeks of summer vacation! See you soon! ~ Mrs. Hively

Fun Activities for Hand Strengthening

Summer time is perfect for relaxing, but also perfect to work on strengthening the muscles in your child's hands! By spending time doing fun activities during the summer, your child will return to school in the fall ready to develop their handwriting skills.

Here's some helpful info about hand and finger strength from Therapystreetforkids.com:
More about hand and finger strength . . .

There are well over 25 muscles in your forearm and hand.  The muscles in the forearm control elbow, wrist and finger movements.  Smaller muscles within the palm of the hand control the more refined movements of the thumb and fingers.  

It may appear that someone has strong hands when they are able to squeeze something really hard.  But that's not the whole story.  That type of strong grip comes mostly from the forearm muscles.   When squeezing, some of the strength comes from the smaller muscles within the hand, but these muscles contribute only a little bit to total grip strength.  

So, when we look at hand strength, we also need to look at the strength of those small muscles within the hand.  In infancy, these muscles are not fully developed.  Babies are able to grip and squeeze first with all of their fingers in unison before they are able to control movement in each finger individually.   As infants develop, they are able to control the thumb and fingers individually, rather than as a mass grip or squeeze.

Why is this important?

When the large and small muscles of the forearm and hand are slow to develop, weakness and incoordination may result.   The large muscles of the forearm may overcompensate for weak inner hand muscles.  As a result, the child will find ways to hold, pinch and grip small objects in awkward ways.  As examples, the child may have difficulty

• picking up small items (bits of food, Cheerios, coins, etc.) using the pads and tips of the index finger and thumb.
  
• holding a pencil, crayons and markers with a 3 or 4 finger tip pinch
  
• holding and using feeding utensils effectively
  
• fastening closures (zippers, snaps, buttons) on garments easily
  
• using scissors
  
• imitating various finger positions during finger play  (e.g., touching each finger to the thumb-opposition, making the "A-ok" sign).
  
• manipulating small items within the hand (e.g., transferring coins within the palm out to the fingertips). 

 Here are some fun summer activities to help increase hand and finger strength:

• Clay, therapy putty, Silly putty, play-doh, Sculpey, bread dough, modeling foam (Crayola Model Magic)

  • These are all excellent materials for squeezing, squishing, pushing, pulling and molding
    
  • Try hiding small objects (beads, pennies, beans) inside and then try pulling them out
    
  • Use a rolling pin to flatten it out, then use cookie cutters to make shapes
    
  • See Recipe for putty 
   

Interlocking construction toys

• Mega Blocks are large sized Legos and are best for preschool age children
  
• Bristle (Krinkles) blocks are a good choice for preschool age
  
• Legos, Tinkertoys and K'nex are best for older children
  
• Pop beads: large size for preschool, small (play jewelry type) for older children
  
• Linking chains
  

Water play with spray bottles, water guns, squirt toys, sponges

• Spray bottles: help water plants or spray the windows to clean, play with it in the bathtub, play outdoors in warm weather, fill the bottles with liquid chalk (see instructions here) or liquid watercolors (see instructions here).
  
• Water guns and squirt toys: outdoor summer fun as well as in the bathtub.
  
• Sponges: squeezing to wring out the water is great for strengthening hands and forearms.  Help wash the car, wash toys and dolls in the sink or bathtub, squeeze sponges on your friends during water play outdoors, bring a bucket or cooler filled with water and sponges to cool off on a hot day when on picnics, soccer games and other outings.
  

Clothespin games:

• Use the pads of the thumb and index finger to open the clothespin rather than pinching it open against the side of the index finger
  
• When pinching open, try alternating each finger to squeeze opposite the thumb.
  
• place clothespins along the top of a container and then on top of each other to construct a design.
  
• Pick up small objects with the clothespin: cotton balls, pompoms,crumbled paper, beads, pegs, etc.
  
• Attach several clothespins along the bottom hem of shirt and then pull them off.
  
• Place clothespins around an index card
  
• Hang up pictures or plush toys on a string, like a clothesline.
  

Hole puncher:

• Punch holes along strips of paper (1 to 2 inches wide) or along the edges of a sheet of paper or paper plate.
  
• Use hole punch clippings to make confetti or 'snow' to glue on paper for pictures
  
• Grip style hole punchers (pictured at left) are easier for children to use, rather than the small punchers that require a strong pinch to operate.
  

Bubble Pack

• Pop the bubbles on large or small bubble pack by pinching with thumb and index finger or by pushing down on bubbles when sheet is placed on a hard surface.
  

Squeeze toys and materials

• Foam balls, animals and shapes
  
• Tennis ball "Hungry Guy" (see instructions):  When you squeeze the ball the mouth will open.  Hide pennies, pegs, beads and other small things inside.  Squeeze to open and shake out the contents, then feed the "hungry guy" by slipping in the "food".  The wider the slit, the easier it will be to open the mouth wide.  Start with a wide slit for young children.
  
• Rubber "pinky" balls
  
• Bulb syringe (usually in infant supply sections of stores) or turkey baster to squirt water, or have a race by squeezing them to blow cotton balls and pompoms across a finish line.
  
• Craft activities that require using bottles to squeeze: glue, glitter glue, puffy paint, fabric paint, etc.
  

Summer Vacation Transition Anxiety

Parents, I know that you are probably as eager to start the summer as I am! Not having to drag our kids out of bed and get to the school on time will be such a nice break! I know the kids are super excited to have a break from homework and the responsibility of being a student for a few months. As wonderful as summer break is, the transition between the school year and summer can be hard on our kiddos.

This time of the year is filled with unexpected changes.... classrooms are being packed up, schedules are altered, everyone is excited, and so many "special" events that require flexibility and heavy doses of social skills are happening. The kids and I have been having many discussions about handling the changes. Many of them have adopted our skill of asking their teacher in the morning, "Are there any changes today?" This has been a great help and eased many worries.

If your child starts exhibiting behaviors that have been resolved for quite a while during this transition time, please take a deep breath. Yes, it is frustrating. I feel it, too. But regression during a big transition is very common. If your child has shown solid growth behaviorally and it seems like things are sliding backwards a bit give it some time before you start with a new intervention. Continue being consistent with your expectation and current plan. This will give your child the predictability they need during this time of transition. Keep emotions as neutral as possible so that the regression is not compounded by an emotionally charged response. Usually, the regression will stop and the skill will be restored after a short period of time. 

As we enjoy the long weekend, I'm going to ask each of you to please help your child with an activity that will help with the mixed feelings that can accompany the summer vacation transition. Please help your child fill out this calendar for next week identifying their plans for Thursday, Friday, etc. The plan does not have to be detailed. Just identify where they will be (home or traveling?), who they will be with, and a main activity they can count on.  It can be as simple as Thursday is Legos, Friday is a trip to the pool, Saturday is video games at home. Have your child post their calendar on the fridge or in their rooms. Doing this simple activity can help tremendously with decreasing anxiety and helping your child end their school year on a good note. The calendar can be found under "Transition" on the right sidebar.

Please make sure that you are following this blog by email. You will receive an email notification when new topics are posted.  I will be posting several pieces of information about activities for handwriting improvement and summer activity ideas over the next week.

Autism Social Skills Class through Austin Dog Alliance

I wanted to share some information about a cool opportunity for a social skills class for kids with Autism through the Austin Dog Alliance. They offer a "K9 Club" for kids ages 8-16 that teach them to work with dogs in various ways that support social skills goals. For more information, go here.

Calming Sequence for the Cardinalsaurs

The Cardinalsaur group has been working on learning a basic 3 point scale for emotional regulation and how to use the visual cue for the Turtle Technique to calm. The 3 point scale is a modified version of Kari Dunn Buron's 5 Point Scale technique. The kids learn to identify their feelings and then take steps to move to a calmer level. Once they are at a calmer level, they can begin to problem solve with adult help.

The Turtle Technique comes from the book Tucker Turtle Takes Time to Tuck & Think by Rochelle Lentini. A Powerpoint that contains the scripted story can be found at http://www.challengingbehavior.org/do/resources/teaching_tools/ttyc_toc.htm.

The Turtle Technique contains 3 calming steps.
1. Stop and keep your hands, feet, and yelling to yourself.
2. Tuck and take 3 deep breaths. (Some students physically tuck their heads inside their shirts, sit under a piece of furniture, or in a calm corner. Other students just close their eyes or lay their head down on the desk).
3.  Think of a way to solve your problem and make yourself feel better or ASK FOR HELP.

Feel free to print the image to use at home. It is also available under the calming tools page on the sidebar. Ask your child to teach you how to tuck and use the Turtle Technique. Please praise and reinforce your child whenever he or she attempts to use the technique instead of tantrumming at home. 

Please let me know if you have any questions!